Discernment: To What Spirituality/Mission Am I Attracted?

Discernment:  As you discern your vocation, believing that God might be calling you to religious life or to priesthood, I encourage you to asked yourself: What part of the spirituality and/or mission of the priesthood/religious life attracts me?  Obviously, to know that, you need to research articles or websites of religious communities and of the priesthood (be that the diocesan or a religious order priest) to learn about the spirituality of the Order in which  you are interested. If you are looking at women religious communities, you can access those by typing in “Women Religious Communities” in the Internet search box. A Directory will surface. If you click on the name of a religious congregation, their website opens.  I also encourage you to visit religious communities in person in your area or outside of your State. Talk to Sisters/Priests of that religious community to learn about their spirituality/mission.  For men, type in “Men’s Religious Communities” and several options will surface.

Discernment: How to Overcome Fears and/or Obstacles

Discernment:  In the July 22 blog, I invited you to look at your fears about marriage, religious life, priesthood or the single lifestyle. I asked that you identify your fears, ask how realistic each is, whether or not they are, in fact, true, and, finally, reflect on what you  learned by answering those questions.

In this reflection, I ask you whether you can overcome the obstacles or fears  that surface when you seriously consider  entering religious life or the seminary, or when you consider marriage or the single lifestyle.  If your answer is “yes,” then how will you overcome that obstacle?  Write out your responses and then share them with Jesus.  Ask Jesus for feedback.  

Discernment: Looking at What One Fears about any Vocation in Life

Discernment:  Part of discernment of a vocation to religious life and/or priesthood, but could also apply to marriage and/or the single life,  includes looking at the greatest obstacle you sense prevents you from pursuing that vocation. In other words of what are you most afraid when you think about entering a seminary, a religious community of men or women. What frightens you about seeking a husband and getting married? And finally, if you feel called to remain single, what frightens you about that vocation in life.  List all of your fears of any one of the vocations in life.  Then surrender them to the Lord. Also ask the Lord to give you feedback about those fears.

Also, how realistic are those fears? Talk to someone in each of those vocations about your fears. What feedback to they give you?  Do your fears hold substance? Are they even true about that vocation in life?  What do you learn by looking at your fears of any of the vocations?

Discernment: What Your Personal Gifts Might Reveal

Discernment:  As you ponder to which vocation God is calling you, I invite you to respond to the question “What gifts would you bring to priesthood, religious life, marriage or the world as a single person committed to your career choice.

After listing your gifts--as many as come to your mind—then ask yourself: In which vocation am I likely to develop those gifts?  Which vocation, do you think, will bring the best out of you and why? Where and with whom are you mostly likely to give of your very best and why?  What do you need to grow and does the particular vocation that you are considering offer you the right environment?  If you do not know, then talk to someone in a given vocation whom you admire, and ask the questions that come to your mind that need to be answer for you to make a choice that is right for you.

Discernment and Surrender

Discernment and Surrendering to the Will of God:  God wills our peace and our salvation. God wills that we become the person God designed us to become.  God did not send us to this earth to be what another person wants us to be but to become our own person who carries out the purpose for which God created us.  No one else in the world has or will be given the mission that God entrusts to us. We need to discern what that mission is and become the person we are in God’s sight.  No one else is given the mission God has given to us and no one else in the world is who we are: each one of us is unique. The image of God by which we are made is not the same as anyone else’s.  I f we do not reflect the image and likeness of God given to us in God’s creation of us, that image and likeness of God is denied the world around us.

So, who are you in God’s sight? What image and likeness of God are you to be reflecting in the world where God placed you? What mission has God given you? And in what vocation are you to reflect God’s image and likeness and in what vocation are you to carry out the mission God gave to you and to no one else?

To discern this, we need to surrender our will to God’s will as Jesus surrendered to the will of His Father.  On our own, we are not capable of surrendering our free will. We need the grace of God to do this.  That is why it is paramount that we prostrate ourselves on our knees and ask God to assist us, to empower us to follow Jesus’ example of surrendering to God as our Father and Creator, our Sanctifier and Savior!  We need God’s grace to enable us to know and trust and love God our Father and Creator, our Sanctifier and Savior. Only then will we surrender our wills to this Higher and trustworthy Will.

Discernment: Role of God Talk and God Knowledge

Discernment:  As you ponder the vocation to which you feel called—religious life, priesthood, the single lifestyle or marriage—I encourage you to look at what you can do to open up the lines of communication between God and yourself. Also ask: How can I come to a greater knowledge of God and myself in order to understand what my vocation might be. Those two questions are very important.

Why open up the lines of communication between God and yourself? Every vocation is a call and behind every call is a caller. It is important to increase your communication with the Caller and to deepen your knowledge of the One who calls. In terms of religious life or priesthood, growing in your knowledge of God and further opening up the lines of communication with the Caller is as important as doing so with one’s future husband/wife. You would never consider marriage a particular person without increasingly opening lines of communication with that person and taking steps to grow in knowledge of that person. So, too, with the One who calls a person to religious life or priesthood.

So, how to you do that?  What are you already doing in communicating with God? What are you already doing that is helping you grow in your knowledge of God? Continue doing that but increase your efforts. If you are not already doing this, set aside private time with the Lord each day.   Find a space of solitude and talk to God about yourself and your day as you would with a best friend.  God wants to listen to you, delights in you, as a best friend cherishes speaking and listening to you. Tell God everything about your day, your feelings (fears,s hurts, angers, sadness, joy, happiness, excitement, etc.) your thoughts, your hopes, dreams of  each day.  Then sit in quiet, listening to God at work in the solitude. When you mind strays, return to listening, using a prayer word such as “Jesus,” “God,” “Peace,” as you continue being still in God’s presence.

To grow in knowledge of God, read the Scriptures of the day each day (your parish bulletin usually lists those), or go to the Gospels and read about Jesus on a daily basis.

Discernment: What Vocation is Right for Me?

In discerning which vocation you believe is right for you, I recommend that you look at how God has been present in the major events of your life thus far.  Those places and events in which you found God are clues to God’s call.  God is always present. God is always searching for you. God is always ready to respond to your desires for peace and love and fulfillment. God wants you to blossom into the person God created you to be.

 Where have you felt most like yourself? Where have you experienced a deep sense of meaning and purpose. Where and when and with whom have you said to yourself: “This is it.” “This makes sense to me.” “ I feel one with my Creator God.” “I feel a sense of goodness welling up in me.” “This is for me!”   “I can grow in this way of life!”  “Yes, I believe that I can become my best self as a single person committed to this particular profession.” “When I think of becoming a woman/man religious within this particular community devoted to the mission God entrusted to them, I feel a deep sense of peace. I find God here!”  Or maybe you are saying to yourself: “I can see  this woman/man as my spouse. I feel a wholeness when I am with this person. I feel hope-filled with him/her. Together, I believe that we can build a life of faith, grow in love and support one another in our professions. “This feels right for me!”

When you hear such messages, are you not hearing God, sensing God, knowing that God is calling you to seriously consider that call?